Nov 22, 2022
It’s human nature to crave attention, it can be the validation that soothes, distracts, stimulates, creates pleasure or reduces pain. Attention seeking can be a wide range of behaviours and understanding when yourself or others are seeking attention can empower you to see the cycle, know the root cause and gain clarity.
Today’s guests, Melissa & Iain Roberts, join us to share about their own relationship from long distance to newlywed, the gum ball love framework and how attention seeking has impacted their lives and relationships.
We chat
- Critically looking at yourself and unpacking your behaviours
- The 8 flavours of attention
- Avoiding attention seeking behaviours in a relationship.
8 flavours of attention
-
Attention Seeking (validation seeking) v’s Connection
Seeking
1.
Red - Arouse me (turn me
on)
2.
Orange - Fight me
(drama)
3.
Yellow - Entertain me
(never happy - complainer)
4. Green -
Compete for me (envy - there is
always someone else in the picture)
5. Blue -
Pity me (Feel sorry for me, always
want a problem not a solution, people pleasers fall for Pity
me)
6.
Purple - Idolise me
(centre of attention, talks to everyone else at the
party)
7. Pink -
Chase me (reaches out, doesn’t make
plans)
8.
White - Convince me
(Superiority, “all women are XYZ - make me think
otherwise")
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Connect with Sammi & Nathan Jaeger
Website - https://www.fuelcollective.com.au/
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Connect with Melissa and Iain Roberts
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/melissajaneroberts/
Website -
www.GumballLove.com
Facebook - www.facebook.com/coachMelissaLeger